With Apologies

To: Carl Sandburg, Robert Frost, Maya Angelou, Mary Oliver, William Shakespeare, King David, Emily Dickinson, Walt Whitman, Langston Hughes, T.S. Eliot, Rumi, Edgar Alen Poe, William Wordsworth, Homer, Pablo Neruda, Dante Aligheri, William Blake, John Keats, Rainer Maria Rilke, Phyllis Wheatley, W.B. Yeats, Billy Collins, Dr. Seuss, Shel Silverstein, Anne Bradstreet, and just about every other poet I have read.

Except Brian Bilston. I refuse to apologize to him. I admire him, and love his poetry, but I simply refuse to apologize.

Having some time today,and being overtaken by an evil muse while the earth slowly tipped on its axis, I wrote two poems for the occasion.

An Answer To The Eternal Poetic Question Of Spring, Written On The Occasion Of The Autumnal Equinox

Fall has fallen
The grass may die
To the South
The birdies fly
Wing on bird? Bird on wing?
It doesn’t matter,
It’s fall, not spring.

A Poem On The Occasion Of 8:05 pm Eastern Standard Time, September 22, 2026 (0:05 GMT, September 23, 2026).

Do not put me in a box
on this autumnal equinox.
I think I’ll put on some shoes and socks
and go and sit among the rocks,
down by the river, where the locks
move the water…oh, look! A fox!
And his ears are pointed like Mr. Spock’s.

Now, where was I, my mind’s a pox.
I should be locked up in the stocks.
But this season’s quite a paradox
and this poem rather unorthodox
like the writings of Harvey Cox.
(Not forgetting Courtney, Brian, and Wally, who mocks
my shoes, they’re ugly crocs.)

For years I watched after flocks
(some brought me candy made by Brock’s!)
and most were nerds, though some were jocks,
a few wore hats called pillbox,
while some grew flowers called hollyhocks.
Though others preferred to grow some phlox,
I loved them all, which gave them shocks.

I tried and tried but cannot recall
a rhyme for this season known as…..
Autumn.

The Spaces Between the Pictures

I have gone back to school.

Our local university, Francis Marion University, is offering non-credit evening classes for the community, taught by its faculty, for the incredibly inexpensive price of $10 per course. I signed up for two: Photography: Make Not Take Better Photos, taught by Professor Julie Mixon, and Revolutionary War Battles in South Carolina, taught by Dr. Will Bolt.

I have a nice mirrorless digital camera that I know embarrassingly little about, and lately I have been traveling around South Carolina looking for lesser-known Revolutionary War battle sites. So both classes were right up my alley.

Professor Mixon’s first class introduced photography and what she believes makes a good photograph. A good photograph tells us something. It invites us into a part of the world we may not have noticed before. It often raises more questions than it answers. And, at its best, it gives us a new way of seeing the world around us.

She showed us photographs from her travels—landscapes, flowers, and some incredible close-ups of insects. She loves bugs. For our homework, she asked us to think about what makes a good photograph.

I’ve been doing just that.

Ansel Adams famously distinguished between taking a photograph and making one. Even when the shutter is open for only a thousandth of a second, the photographer has decisions to make. What am I photographing? Why? What belongs inside the frame? What should be left outside it? What should be sharp, and what should disappear into the blur?

A photograph may capture only a fraction of a second, but a good one can hold an entire story.

Professor Mixon showed us photographs by Dorothea Lange, whose work documented the human cost of the Great Depression. Nearly a century later, her photographs still allow us to look into the faces of people who endured the Dust Bowl and Depression and wonder about their lives. Her famous Migrant Mother, along with photographs such as Ditched, Stalled and Stranded, does more than record what someone looked like at a particular moment.

Migrant Mother

Ditched, Stalled, and Stranded

The pictures make you wonder what happened five minutes before the shutter clicked—and what happened five minutes afterward.

They make you compose a story in your mind.

Years ago, in a previous chapter of my life, I visited a young friend in the pediatric cancer ward of a hospital in Columbia. Most of the patients on that floor were under twelve, and many stayed for long periods.

As I stepped into the elevator, a young woman stepped in with me. She looked to be in her early thirties. She had long, straight hair and wore loose-fitting pants and an oversized, long-sleeved T-shirt. She carried a large bag. Stuffed animals peeked out of the top, along with a few clothes and snacks.

She never looked at me.

She looked at the elevator buttons.

When she saw the floor I had already selected, she didn’t press another button. She simply turned and stared at the wall.

I tried not to stare at her.

I knew nothing about this woman. I didn’t know who she was going to see or what news she had received. But something about her told me she had ridden that elevator a hundred times. She looked tired—deeply tired—but determined. There was a strength in the way she stood there that seemed greater than the circumstances surrounding her.

I wish I could have made a photograph of her.

Not because I wanted a picture of a tired woman carrying a bag of stuffed animals, but because I wish I could have captured that strength. I wish I could have taken a photograph that made someone who had never met her stop and wonder about her story.

Over the years, I have visited many people in their homes, and I have developed a habit of noticing the photographs they display.

Photographs tell so much about us.

And they keep so many secrets.

Most are the expected pictures—weddings, birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, graduations. In that way, the photographs on our walls are a little like the pictures we post on social media. They tend to show the good moments. Everybody is smiling. Everybody is dressed nicely. Everybody appears happy.

But occasionally a collection of photographs tells a deeper story.

Years ago, I visited a family who lived in a small mobile home. On one wall were eight photographs. As best I could tell, they were the only family photographs displayed in the house.

Each one had been made for a church pictorial directory.

You can usually recognize those photographs from across the room. Everybody is wearing their Sunday clothes. The smiles are slightly forced. And somewhere behind them is that inevitable blue background.

Eight of these pictures hung in a row.

The first showed a young couple. They were smiling and looked recently married.

In the second, they were holding a baby. Their smiles were even bigger.

The third showed the couple with a small child and another baby.

Then came the fourth photograph.

The children were teenagers now.

Nobody was smiling.

The mother looked tired. The father looked angry.

In the fifth photograph, the father was gone. Only the mother and her two older teenagers remained. She looked worried.

The sixth showed the mother alone.

She had a slight smile.

The seventh showed her with her two now-grown children.

All three were smiling.

And then there was the eighth.

The mother was gray-haired now. Beside her stood her two adult children, their spouses, and a small baby.

Everyone was beaming.

Eight photographs.

No captions. No explanations.

I never knew the whole story behind that wall, and perhaps that is what made those photographs so powerful. Somewhere between those blue backgrounds there had been love and disappointment, babies and teenagers, anger and absence, loneliness and reconciliation. Some chapters of a family’s life no camera recorded.

But you could still see traces of them.

The pictures told a story.

And so did the spaces between the pictures.

Several years ago, I read about Dale Irby, a physical education teacher in Dallas who accidentally wore the same outfit for his school yearbook photograph two years in a row. His wife dared him to do it again. Eventually it became a tradition, and for decades he appeared in his yearbook photograph wearing essentially the same polyester shirt and sweater vest.

What began as an ordinary school photograph became something else entirely.

It became a record of time passing.

The clothes stayed the same. The man did not.

Dale Irby, Prestwood Elementary School, Dallas, TX

Maybe that is part of what photographs do for us. They remind us that the world is always changing, even when we aren’t paying attention.

Today we probably take more photographs than any generation in human history. Our phones contain thousands of them. We photograph our meals, our pets, our grandchildren, sunsets, vacations, birthday cakes, and ourselves standing in front of places we may never visit again.

But strangely, the more photographs we take, the fewer we seem to keep.

We don’t print many of them anymore. We upload them online, look at them for a day or two, and then they disappear into the enormous digital attic of our phones and computers.

Perhaps that is why Professor Mixon’s distinction between taking and making photographs has stayed with me.

I don’t really need to learn how to take more pictures.

I already know how to do that.

I want to learn how to see.

I want to notice the woman in the elevator. The changing faces on the wall. The things most people walk past without seeing. I want to learn to make photographs worth printing and putting somewhere that people might stop and look at them years from now.

Maybe they will wonder what happened just before the shutter clicked.

Maybe they will wonder what happened afterward.

Maybe they will see something in the picture that I didn’t even know was there.

Because it is a big old world, filled with people and places we pass every day without really seeing.

Sometimes all it takes is a camera—and someone willing to pay attention.

Every picture tells a story.

Hampton, my cat, whom I miss

SPANGHEW

Spanghew. This word has made me fall in love again with the English language.

As many of you know, I have a complicated relationship with my native tongue. Compared to other languages, it seems so feeble. For instance, consider the word “love.” The ancient Greeks had a whole collection of words that we now interpret simply as love: agape, philia, storge, eros, philautia, and pragma. We have “love.” “I love my wife. I love my children. I also love Pepsi Zero.”

And so many words we have can mean one thing and the opposite. They are called contronyms. For example, “bolt” can mean to secure something so it can’t be moved, or to run away from something very fast. Weather can mean to wear away, or to endure. Refrain can mean not to do something, while a refrain is something you’re expected to do again and again.

Steve Martin said, “Some people have a way with words, while other people…..not have way.” Even though most of my life has been dealing with words, I find I often not have way. 

Eventually I stopped opening the 20-pound Random House Webster’s Unabridged Dictionary my wife gave me a few years ago. Partly because I had given up on English and partly because the thing is a lumbar injury waiting to happen. 

And then spanghew somehow found its way to me. Spanghew, according to that same dictionary, means “to throw violently into the air; especially: to throw (a frog) into the air from the end of a stick.” 

We have a word for that? 

We have a word specifically for using sticks to throw frogs into the air? 

If I were still preaching, I would have to preach on Exodus 8:1-15 just so I could use the sentence “Egyptians and Jews, everyone from Pharaoh to Moses, spent days spanghewing.” 

There are so many words that I have completely overlooked or misused.

Defenestration- the act of throwing someone or something out the window. “You give me the urge to defenestrate.”

Syzygy- an alignment of at least three celestial bodies in a straight line. “Did you see the syzygy last night?”

Kenspeckle- conspicuous. “Mike’s attire of Dockers and a polo shirt made him kenspeckle at the Boy Harsher concert.”

Maybe I have been too hard on English. Any language that has survived long enough to have a word for throwing frogs into the air can’t be entirely feeble. There are probably thousands of wonderful words hiding in that 20-pound dictionary that I have never bothered to meet. 

And then there is the ever-popular floccinaucinihilipilification: the long, absurd act of judging something to be entirely worthless. Which, dear reader, you may be thinking of using now.

That’s okay. I have some spanghewing to do.

“I fought the law and…”

I was on my way to a meeting. An important meeting. In Columbia. I was thinking about the meeting and all the important people in it. And all the important things we would talk about. That’s when it happened.

I saw the blue lights flash behind me—no need to turn on the siren. I pulled over, turned the car off, rolled down the window, and waited. The officer came up to the window and asked for my license, registration, and insurance info. I have learned to wait until they ask before doing anything. Seeing me reach for the glove compartment (do they still call it that?) while walking up makes the officer wonder, “Is he reaching for something or hiding something?” I unbuckled my seat belt to get my wallet out of my back pocket. (Another thing- always wait until they get there to unbuckle. That way, they don’t ask why your seat belt was unbuckled.) After examining my documents, he said, “Mr. Henderson, you were going 46 in a 30 miles per hour zone.” No argument from me. He was right. He told me to wait a minute while he went to his cruiser. He came back with the ticket. “I’ve reduced your ticket down to 39 and 2 points. You can pay ahead of time or go to traffic court.” He told me the date, time, and address. I thanked him for reducing it. The fine was $76. It would not affect my insurance. At least, not yet.

I decided to go to court. Not because I was contesting the ticket. I was guilty as charged. But if, for some reason, the officer didn’t show up in court, they might dismiss the ticket. And besides, what else do I have to do?

The day for the court came. I was scheduled to be there at 8:15 am. Since Columbia is 60 miles away, I got up at 5:30, left the house by 6:30, drove an hour and fifteen minutes (Columbia traffic at the end slowed me down), found a parking spot, and walked to the building.

There must have been 125 people already there! We were all standing outside, waiting for the doors to open. Most were looking at their phones, busy doing important things. I talked with a couple of people, assuming they were there for the same reason I was. (They weren’t.) Then I started singing Folsom Prison Blues, doing my best Johnny Cash. No one joined in. Then I started Workin’ on the Chain Gang. You could hear Sam Cooke turning over in his grave. People turned and looked at their phones from another direction. I may have been the only person there who was born in the 1900s.

An officer came out and said, “Everyone here for jury duty, form a line to the right.” About a hundred people moved to the right. Including the two I had been talking to about speeding and going to jail—the twenty-five of us not-yet-convicted felons lined up on the left. I looked at the people in the jury duty queue. A few were wearing suits, and most were in casual clothes. One woman was in pajamas. Not cute ones. These you would not wear to Walmart. And she was wearing bedroom slippers.  I thought, “Now there’s someone who will hear a lawyer say ‘Your honor, please dismiss this juror.’”

The jury folks went in first. Then the rest of us did our perp walk in and through the security area. We spread out around the courtroom, more sparsely seated than most churches on Sunday morning. A man went around collecting our tickets. An officer asked us to watch a film in which a judge advised us of our rights. Then the officer said anyone who wanted to take the Traffic Education Program (TEP) could do so. It would cost $285, take 7 hours online, and require 4 hours of community service, which we could do at our local church. Then the ticket would go away. It was a good deal if you had a four-point ticket. He said he would answer any questions, but could not give legal advice. But he mouthed, “But take the course.” About half of the people raised their hands asking for the application.

The judge walked in. Then came three police officers. Mine was not there! I unfurrowed my brow. The judge was very good at going through the cases. She was patient with the offenders, always explaining their options, never losing her temper even when they asked the same thing four times in a row. Finally, my name was called. I approached the bench. “Mr. Henderson, your officer (she said his name) is not able to be here this morning.” I knew she was going to say, “So we are dismissing your case.” Instead, she said, “You can plead guilty or no contest, and I will reduce your fine by twenty percent. Or you can plead not guilty and come back in September. What do you wish to do?”

I threw myself upon the mercy of the court. “I’m guilty, your honor.” “Okay. Your fine is $61. Have a good day.”

I left the room, did the perp walk to the place where you pay the fine, and gave the City of Columbia $61. I did some quick math as I was walking out. I saved $15 on the fine, but paid $16 for gas driving to Columbia and back.  And I got up at the butt crack of dawn to do it.

Walking through the folks standing around as I headed back to my car, I started singing with the Bobby Fuller Four. Or The Crickets. Or The Clash. “Breaking rocks in the hot sun…”

Again, no one sang along.

In Defense of College

I’ve noticed that our society seems to be turning against students who choose to attend college after high school. Back in ancient times—when I was a teenager and dinosaurs roamed the earth—college was almost assumed. Some students chose technical schools, but most were headed to a four-year campus.

These days, many young people seem more committed to choosing a college football team than choosing a college education. Allegiance to a university can feel like a matter of religious faith, passed down through generations. Choosing a rival school can cause family shock on par with announcing a change of denomination. Thanksgiving dinners are never quite the same again.

One argument I hear often is that college doesn’t make economic sense. The cost of an in-state four-year degree can range widely—often between $48,000 and $180,000 when tuition, housing, and fees are included. It’s true that not every degree produces the same financial return, and student debt is a real concern. Still, while graduates typically earn more than those with only a high school diploma—and often more than many technical certifications—not all benefits of college can be measured in dollars.

College teaches you how to think.

I’ve heard countless people say something like, “Another day gone and I didn’t use trigonometry,” or substitute any least-favorite class. Maybe that’s true on the surface. But education is not only about specific content; it is about learning how to reason, analyze, question, and argue ideas responsibly. Those habits of mind transfer everywhere. And judging by the state of public discourse, they are in short supply.

In the old television series The Paper Chase, the law professor Charles W. Kingsfield Jr., played memorably by John Houseman, tells his students: “You teach yourselves the law, but I train your minds. You come in here with a skull full of mush; you leave thinking like a lawyer.” The line is harsh, but the point stands. Thinking is difficult work—which is exactly why it matters.

College also teaches you how to live with people who are not like you. When you share a dorm, a classroom, or a late-night study table, you encounter different backgrounds, beliefs, and habits. You learn not just to listen, but to understand why others think and act the way they do. That understanding has no direct price tag, but it has enormous civic value.

You learn discipline and delayed gratification. Getting up for class, managing your time, completing assignments, and caring for yourself without constant supervision build habits that last a lifetime. Learning to do the work now instead of postponing it pays steady dividends long after graduation.

Most of all, you learn that you can stand on your own. You learn that you can adapt, struggle, recover, and succeed without a safety net. That confidence—earned, not given—may be the most valuable lesson of all.

College is not the only good path. But it remains a good one—and worth defending.