The Spaces Between the Pictures

I have gone back to school.

Our local university, Francis Marion University, is offering non-credit evening classes for the community, taught by its faculty, for the incredibly inexpensive price of $10 per course. I signed up for two: Photography: Make Not Take Better Photos, taught by Professor Julie Mixon, and Revolutionary War Battles in South Carolina, taught by Dr. Will Bolt.

I have a nice mirrorless digital camera that I know embarrassingly little about, and lately I have been traveling around South Carolina looking for lesser-known Revolutionary War battle sites. So both classes were right up my alley.

Professor Mixon’s first class introduced photography and what she believes makes a good photograph. A good photograph tells us something. It invites us into a part of the world we may not have noticed before. It often raises more questions than it answers. And, at its best, it gives us a new way of seeing the world around us.

She showed us photographs from her travels—landscapes, flowers, and some incredible close-ups of insects. She loves bugs. For our homework, she asked us to think about what makes a good photograph.

I’ve been doing just that.

Ansel Adams famously distinguished between taking a photograph and making one. Even when the shutter is open for only a thousandth of a second, the photographer has decisions to make. What am I photographing? Why? What belongs inside the frame? What should be left outside it? What should be sharp, and what should disappear into the blur?

A photograph may capture only a fraction of a second, but a good one can hold an entire story.

Professor Mixon showed us photographs by Dorothea Lange, whose work documented the human cost of the Great Depression. Nearly a century later, her photographs still allow us to look into the faces of people who endured the Dust Bowl and Depression and wonder about their lives. Her famous Migrant Mother, along with photographs such as Ditched, Stalled and Stranded, does more than record what someone looked like at a particular moment.

Migrant Mother

Ditched, Stalled, and Stranded

The pictures make you wonder what happened five minutes before the shutter clicked—and what happened five minutes afterward.

They make you compose a story in your mind.

Years ago, in a previous chapter of my life, I visited a young friend in the pediatric cancer ward of a hospital in Columbia. Most of the patients on that floor were under twelve, and many stayed for long periods.

As I stepped into the elevator, a young woman stepped in with me. She looked to be in her early thirties. She had long, straight hair and wore loose-fitting pants and an oversized, long-sleeved T-shirt. She carried a large bag. Stuffed animals peeked out of the top, along with a few clothes and snacks.

She never looked at me.

She looked at the elevator buttons.

When she saw the floor I had already selected, she didn’t press another button. She simply turned and stared at the wall.

I tried not to stare at her.

I knew nothing about this woman. I didn’t know who she was going to see or what news she had received. But something about her told me she had ridden that elevator a hundred times. She looked tired—deeply tired—but determined. There was a strength in the way she stood there that seemed greater than the circumstances surrounding her.

I wish I could have made a photograph of her.

Not because I wanted a picture of a tired woman carrying a bag of stuffed animals, but because I wish I could have captured that strength. I wish I could have taken a photograph that made someone who had never met her stop and wonder about her story.

Over the years, I have visited many people in their homes, and I have developed a habit of noticing the photographs they display.

Photographs tell so much about us.

And they keep so many secrets.

Most are the expected pictures—weddings, birthdays, anniversaries, vacations, graduations. In that way, the photographs on our walls are a little like the pictures we post on social media. They tend to show the good moments. Everybody is smiling. Everybody is dressed nicely. Everybody appears happy.

But occasionally a collection of photographs tells a deeper story.

Years ago, I visited a family who lived in a small mobile home. On one wall were eight photographs. As best I could tell, they were the only family photographs displayed in the house.

Each one had been made for a church pictorial directory.

You can usually recognize those photographs from across the room. Everybody is wearing their Sunday clothes. The smiles are slightly forced. And somewhere behind them is that inevitable blue background.

Eight of these pictures hung in a row.

The first showed a young couple. They were smiling and looked recently married.

In the second, they were holding a baby. Their smiles were even bigger.

The third showed the couple with a small child and another baby.

Then came the fourth photograph.

The children were teenagers now.

Nobody was smiling.

The mother looked tired. The father looked angry.

In the fifth photograph, the father was gone. Only the mother and her two older teenagers remained. She looked worried.

The sixth showed the mother alone.

She had a slight smile.

The seventh showed her with her two now-grown children.

All three were smiling.

And then there was the eighth.

The mother was gray-haired now. Beside her stood her two adult children, their spouses, and a small baby.

Everyone was beaming.

Eight photographs.

No captions. No explanations.

I never knew the whole story behind that wall, and perhaps that is what made those photographs so powerful. Somewhere between those blue backgrounds there had been love and disappointment, babies and teenagers, anger and absence, loneliness and reconciliation. Some chapters of a family’s life no camera recorded.

But you could still see traces of them.

The pictures told a story.

And so did the spaces between the pictures.

Several years ago, I read about Dale Irby, a physical education teacher in Dallas who accidentally wore the same outfit for his school yearbook photograph two years in a row. His wife dared him to do it again. Eventually it became a tradition, and for decades he appeared in his yearbook photograph wearing essentially the same polyester shirt and sweater vest.

What began as an ordinary school photograph became something else entirely.

It became a record of time passing.

The clothes stayed the same. The man did not.

Dale Irby, Prestwood Elementary School, Dallas, TX

Maybe that is part of what photographs do for us. They remind us that the world is always changing, even when we aren’t paying attention.

Today we probably take more photographs than any generation in human history. Our phones contain thousands of them. We photograph our meals, our pets, our grandchildren, sunsets, vacations, birthday cakes, and ourselves standing in front of places we may never visit again.

But strangely, the more photographs we take, the fewer we seem to keep.

We don’t print many of them anymore. We upload them online, look at them for a day or two, and then they disappear into the enormous digital attic of our phones and computers.

Perhaps that is why Professor Mixon’s distinction between taking and making photographs has stayed with me.

I don’t really need to learn how to take more pictures.

I already know how to do that.

I want to learn how to see.

I want to notice the woman in the elevator. The changing faces on the wall. The things most people walk past without seeing. I want to learn to make photographs worth printing and putting somewhere that people might stop and look at them years from now.

Maybe they will wonder what happened just before the shutter clicked.

Maybe they will wonder what happened afterward.

Maybe they will see something in the picture that I didn’t even know was there.

Because it is a big old world, filled with people and places we pass every day without really seeing.

Sometimes all it takes is a camera—and someone willing to pay attention.

Every picture tells a story.

Hampton, my cat, whom I miss

Ode To Joy

The date was June 3, 1997. Nineteen months earlier, my life had fallen apart (that’s a story for another time). I was now living in the rural community of Oswego, SC, serving a church and healing up. As I rode from the parsonage on Red Apple Lane to the church on the corner of Lodebar and Leonard Brown Roads, I saw a couple of my church members out in their farm fields, taking care of the land. On my left was Billy McCoy, on a tractor, doing something to keep the crops growing. Across the street was his brother, Sam, baling hay. Billy and his wife Stella were leaders in the church and were very supportive and helpful to me. If you rode by their home and saw the front door open, you were invited to stop by. A glass of water or tea awaited you, maybe a snack, but most of all a listening ear, an open heart, and a wise mind if you needed any of them.

When I saw Billy and Sam working, an idea hit me. I called Billy. He answered. “Billy, do you know what day it is?” “Not really,” he replied. “It’s not your birthday, is it?” “Nope. What’s the date?” He thought and said, “It’s the third of June…” and I broke into my best Bobbie Gentry, singing “another sleepy, dusty, delta day…” I slid into those notes like I was sneaking into my house when I was a teenager. “It’s Billy McCoy Day!” I shouted, then resumed singing, “I was out chopping cotton and my brother was baling hay.” Although it was not cotton season yet in Oswego, or down in Mississippi, Billy got it immediately.

Since then, I have called Billy every June 3 and sung part of that song to him. Usually, I get him early in the morning while he is out on the porch with his break-of-day coffee. We catch up with each other, share news of our families, always laugh about things, and promise to keep each other in our prayers.

Today, June 3, 2025, is the 28th time I have called and sung to him. Twenty-eight years of love and support, friendship, and laughter. After I hung up the phone, I realized I was smiling.

Music often expresses the joy we feel. The words may say something meaningful, but the tune frequently speaks in more profound ways. One of Ludwig van Beethoven’s final works was Symphony Number 9, which concludes with his powerful “Ode to Joy.” We often sing that tune in church, saying, “Joyful, joyful, we adore Thee…”

People have different songs to express joy in their lives. Some sing hymns, like “Amazing Grace” or “This is My Father’s World.” For some, it may be an old pop song, like James Taylor’s “Country Roads” or “It’s a Beautiful Morning” by The Rascals. Chris Stapleton’s “Joy of My Life,” Beach Boys’ “Good Vibrations,” and Bobby McFerrin’s “Don’t Worry, Be Happy” all come to mind. For me, today, it’s “Ode to Billie Joe.”

The song itself is not that joyful. It’s rather tragic. Billy Joe MacAllister commits suicide. Something…or someone…was thrown into the Yazoo River. Brother gets married and moves away, Papa dies, Momma doesn’t want to do much of anything, and the singer spends her days dropping flowers off the Tallahatchie Bridge. Have a nice day.

But the song brings back memories of people who loved me, helped me heal, laughed, and cried with me, and a community where I found my wife. Oddly enough, “Ode to Billie Joe” has become my Ode to Joy.

Longest Night 2023

(Note: I am writing this on December 21, 2023.)

I love the neighborhood I live in, and especially my street. If you are ever in Florence this time of the year (December) take a ride through Forest Hills and especially down Iris Drive. Our street is decorated with every house having a small tree with the old-fashioned C-9 bulbs, and a plywood snowman with the family name on it in every yard. Some have a few other lights hanging from trees, and you can see our Christmas tree through the front bay window of our living room. None of the houses are in the running for the Griswold Award nor would we be on any of the tv shows with homes competing for the best lights. But every home contributes to the atmosphere of the season.

I like the street for other reasons, too. We have a mixture of families. Several years ago we had few families with children on the street. Now we have a lot, so many that we watch out for them all up and down the block. We have a few older retired families (like ours), and middle-aged families doing their best to get by. The yards are kept nice, and the neighbors know each other. At least on a first name basis. And while we care about and for each other, no one is intrusive. We just watch out for each other.

Which brings me to tonight. It is the winter solstice, the longest night of the year in the northern hemisphere. Where I live the sun will set at 5:13 p.m. and rise tomorrow at 7:21 a.m. Which means that we will have 14 hours 8 minutes of darkness and 9 hours 52 minutes of light. For some people, that is a long night.

It has been a hard year for a lot of us. Like many of you, I have lost some dear friends this year. A few to death, a few who moved far away, and a few in relationships that have died. I find on the long night I miss them all.

For some it has been a hard year financially. Though that is not true for Cathy and me, we have some close friends who are really struggling. We do what we can to help them through this tough time, remembering when family and friends helped my mother, my sister, and me in our dark nights.

For some of us, me included, it has been a hard year healthwise. Though my cancer treatment seems to have slowed the growth of my cancer, the treatment itself saps me of energy. And while I can get around okay most days, I often find myself exhausted from normal activities. Not quite what I thought when I retired and planned to walk across the state. Still, I am here.

And many of us are worried about the state of our nation. Living in a democracy is hard, and it appears that many people are ready to turn to a dictatorship. Seeing the possible end of this great experiment in a new way of living is wearing on us all.

And there are those who are fighting things spiritually and emotionally. Loss of faith, loss of hope, loss of vision for our future causes great depression. Suicide rates in the US are the highest since 1941, and suicide is now the number one killer of teens.

All this is on my mind when I wake up at 2 a.m. to go to the bathroom. (All you older guys know what I am talking about.) Before going back to sleep, I go sit in our living room and look out past the Christmas tree and see the lights from all the trees on the street. They somehow seem brighter in the late-night darkness. And I think of the lights in the world around me. Friends who have stuck close and continue to get closer. Those who are following Christ in the United Methodist Church and are open to people with different opinions. The fact that I have all the things I need, most of the things I want, and am able to help others in this time. My doctors, nurses, pharmacists, and therapists who not only treat me like a patient, but more like a friend. Having Cathy to help me through all these days, and sticking by me in long days and long nights. And the people who are working, striving, praying, voting to keep our country united. And those who are there for the ones who are struggling deep down, who have listening ears and open arms for the neediest around us.

And I remember, as I continue to look at the lights down the street, that as we focus on the fact that all of us live together on this little blue ball, we can make through. We just need a reminder of the light that lives within each of us. And eyes to see it in the darkest of times.

So, my friends, on this dark night, may you see the lights around you, and find the light within you.